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So in terms of you’re not alone while you go through a divorce, it’s critical to, like I said, one, have a therapist. It’s critical to rely on friends and family support. It’s critical to not be feel like you’re bogged down and you’re isolated, go out and do things, exercise, yoga, walk, you know, take care of yourself. But also realize that you have friends for a reason, right? You have family for a reason. And a lot of clients think, well, I don’t want to bother them with this, right? I don’t want to involve them in this, which can cause isolation and can lead to more type of mental health issues while you’re going through divorce. So in terms of not being alone, you know, your therapist, be there for your children, rely on your friends, talk to your friends, talk to your family.
Another aspect of not being alone while going through a divorce case is I employ what I call a collaborative approach, especially for the dependent spouse, where one, you hire a therapist, Two, once we learn the assets, the income and what’s at stake, hiring them, a financial advisor who can show them, okay, here’s the assets. And then Gary will tell me how I see the assets playing out and being divided. And then the financial advisor can take that and show the client via projections that you’re going to be okay. At times it can provide additional motivation that I am doing the right thing. Right? I was previously somewhat paralyzed to go through a divorce because I didn’t know if I’d be financially okay. Now I see I’m going to be financially okay, and it feels good.
Utilize who you have in your life to help you get through it, but at the same time understanding that it’s primarily on you to get through it and to heal and reflect and do what you got to do to make yourself better.